Question part 3

We all thought that Haddaway solved the million dollar question. We were all shaking our heads to it after all.

What is love?
Baby don’t hurt me
Don’t hurt me
No more

But no.

He only said it how he saw it. But that song was very popular not only because we saw Will ferell shaking his head to it but because it was good music that was super relatable. Love is pain right?

I asked someone very dear to me, what is love? They said you are love. As flattering as the answer was, I don’t think I’m completely pain. So what am I then? Am I pain, pleasure and a little bit of awkwardness thrown in the middle?

Some say that Love is indescribable and there have been amazing love stories out there and songs. We all know John Lennon when it comes to love. Ah yes! All you need is love la la la la …All you need is love, love, love love is all you need. This is the same guy who beat both of his wives, abandoned one of his children, verbally abused his gay Jewish manager with homophobic and anti-semitic slurs, and once had a camera crew film him lying naked in his bed for an entire day. There you go ladies and gentlemen John Lennon has defined love for us.

All you need is Love is just too easy because Love wont put food on the table, love won’t helps us stay committed. Saying all we need is love is pure lazy. I’m getting off topic here. We still don’t know what love is.

Is it Romeo and Juliet where if my wife happens to poison herself I follow. Or is it Gandi’s love for his country that made him starve himself till they all listened to him. Some even go as far to say that Love is a choice and we have a say in whether we fall in love or not. Contrary to popular belief where you don’t choose who you fall in love with.

So what the heck is going on here and who do we listen to? It all seems to extreme but our society idealizes love and the problem with idealizing love is that it causes us to develop unrealistic expectations about what love actually is and what it can do for us. These unrealistic expectations then sabotage the very relationships we hold dear in the first place.

It’s a very very hard question where many great people have taken the liberty of answering this question where we all supposedly know what it is.

There is no one answer for what is Love. This question like my other questions here and here is very subjective. Love comes in all forms, shapes and sizes too. There’s that popular but shaped heart, and then theres the real heart that looks pretty messed up. It comes with pipes around it and stuff. Nasty stuff. But there’s a lot of love in there to give.

Love meaning care. Meaning understanding at the hardest of times. Meaning let downs and forgiving. Love is responsibility. Love can be blindsided by lust, fame, money and other interests that come in handy for each individual.

What is love to you ?

A question to ask our young ones ( and ourselves )

It’s been hectic and I haven’t had the energy to sit and write with focus. I come back home, have dates for dinner. Simplicity is master. As we continue to grow, I remember the one question I’d get a lot as a kid, and that was “What do you want to be when you go up?”. It’s a pretty standard question. We all had that question asked to us by our parents, teachers, relatives, strangers etc.

So as we grow up, we’re in a constant battle with ourselves asking ourselves the same question and I still don’t have the answer. What a hard question. I mean yes, saying doctor, engineer or whatever may sound cool and all, but most of us grow out of it and realize pfft, it wasn’t as cool as it sounded 18 years ago. It’s like the power rangers, at the time it was the coolest thing but once you Youtube it now as I did recently, all I could think was REALLY? power rangers

I liked this? I watched this? pfft, I sure didn’t know better. No disrespect to all doctors and professionals out there who are killing it and changing the world, leaving it a better place than it was. But we average joe’s have no interest in staying up countless years putting up all nighters. We’re just not wired that way. So hats off to all you working professionals. But back to the lame answers we gave ourselves and others to please us all, we realized it’s not what we want and we are under a lot of pressure answering that question. I know I was until recently. “Hady, what do you wanna be when you grow up?” I just wanna sit here play the guitar and read some Archies.

what do I want

Maybe we’re asking the wrong question! Maybe we ought to ask: “Honey, what do you want to do in service of humanity?” BOOM! Nailed it. Ok maybe that question is a little to deep for a 5-6 year old. How about toning it down to : ” Honey, how will yaya help help people? ” or if they’re slightly older: “Honey, what will you do to help people live a better life? Or maybe if you feel bad about erasing that question altogether you ask: “What do you want to be when you grow up and how will that serve humanity?”  When I heard that question, I had soo many answers. Instead of thinking of myself as the dead-end teacher I was now the teacher who was sending out troops of educators out into the world to remove language as a barrier and to save the human race from miscommunication. Maybe then we’d have fewer wars. I was now working with a whole different perspective. It’s not a job title anymore but a mission.

I try to connect that with everything I do. The home business I run is a mission to make this beautiful island a healthier more aware place, the races I do are to maybe inspire a person or two, and to be a fitter and more responsible health conscious person to my community and planet.

I think we’ve been asking the wrong question all along. The question is “What will we do in service of humanity?” “What will we do in service of our planet?” Ask yourself that see how you change the way you see you’re boring dead end 9-5. You’ll suddenly feel like Superman. I sure did, and always try to remember that question when I’m feeling down or having a bad day.