Question part 3

We all thought that Haddaway solved the million dollar question. We were all shaking our heads to it after all.

What is love?
Baby don’t hurt me
Don’t hurt me
No more

But no.

He only said it how he saw it. But that song was very popular not only because we saw Will ferell shaking his head to it but because it was good music that was super relatable. Love is pain right?

I asked someone very dear to me, what is love? They said you are love. As flattering as the answer was, I don’t think I’m completely pain. So what am I then? Am I pain, pleasure and a little bit of awkwardness thrown in the middle?

Some say that Love is indescribable and there have been amazing love stories out there and songs. We all know John Lennon when it comes to love. Ah yes! All you need is love la la la la …All you need is love, love, love love is all you need. This is the same guy who beat both of his wives, abandoned one of his children, verbally abused his gay Jewish manager with homophobic and anti-semitic slurs, and once had a camera crew film him lying naked in his bed for an entire day. There you go ladies and gentlemen John Lennon has defined love for us.

All you need is Love is just too easy because Love wont put food on the table, love won’t helps us stay committed. Saying all we need is love is pure lazy. I’m getting off topic here. We still don’t know what love is.

Is it Romeo and Juliet where if my wife happens to poison herself I follow. Or is it Gandi’s love for his country that made him starve himself till they all listened to him. Some even go as far to say that Love is a choice and we have a say in whether we fall in love or not. Contrary to popular belief where you don’t choose who you fall in love with.

So what the heck is going on here and who do we listen to? It all seems to extreme but our society idealizes love and the problem with idealizing love is that it causes us to develop unrealistic expectations about what love actually is and what it can do for us. These unrealistic expectations then sabotage the very relationships we hold dear in the first place.

It’s a very very hard question where many great people have taken the liberty of answering this question where we all supposedly know what it is.

There is no one answer for what is Love. This question like my other questions here and here is very subjective. Love comes in all forms, shapes and sizes too. There’s that popular but shaped heart, and then theres the real heart that looks pretty messed up. It comes with pipes around it and stuff. Nasty stuff. But there’s a lot of love in there to give.

Love meaning care. Meaning understanding at the hardest of times. Meaning let downs and forgiving. Love is responsibility. Love can be blindsided by lust, fame, money and other interests that come in handy for each individual.

What is love to you ?

How to be pure

He was staring at me non stop. It was probably my man bun. I was looked at in weird ways by abusers, liars, hypocrites, cheaters with a few thieves thrown in. But they were better people than I was. They were the chosen ones, all hand picked by God himself. Anyone to forfend by what they believed was wrong, were WRONG. There was no messing with those people.

I was covered in shame, trying to hide my face using my hair. Since they weren’t pleased by the man bun, I untied it and let my shoulder length hair cover my face so I could hide behind it. I took a peek through the layers and they weren’t happy at all. It felt like they were casting me out of heaven forever. I left there with hate and promising to grow my hair even longer. I have now become stubbornly hateful because I was jealous of those who had the key to heaven. Since I was out anyways I was gonna be bad to the bone.

After watching Terminator 2 for some motivation on being bad to the bone I got even more upset because the bad guy was liquid metal and there was no way in hell I could be like that. Great, now hell too.

I took a good look at myself in the mirror and realized that I wasn’t casted our of heaven yet. I am not dead yet. I have time to redeem myself and have a clean bun instead of a messy one.I figured I’d start there. I felt better about myself. I went in to work lifting my bun with pride. It was all neatly tucked in and I was getting less dirty look and more clean looks.

I then saw someone walk in with an undercut. How dare he walk in here looking like that?!!! Where does he think he is? This is the middle east. Then walked in a women with a pierced lip. HOW DOUBLE DARE YOU? You both ought to DOUBLE DATE. I then remembered how I was casted out of heaven with mere judgmental looks. I stopped casting them out and smiled at them. They looked at me weirdly. I smiled even more hoping they could the read the smile, which read ” It’s okay, I understand. I know what you go through sometimes. And I’m not casting you out of heaven, don’t worry.” They walked out and we lost 2 potential clients. But at least they walked out knowing I was with them.

I made another decision , to never try and cast anyone out of heaven again or give them judgmental looks. We are all going through our own journey and kindness always wins. I was gentle with myself and It worked. The gentler I became with people, the more they accepted me and I them. I formed a bond with myself and a pact to never judge anyone based on appearance, race, color or food choices ( I’m working on this one ) .

And how did I get my self out of hell after being casted out of heaven?! It was one good decision. And I think that’s something I ought to work on more often. Making better decisions. 

I have rid myself out of the purist mentality a long time ago and have met and made more friends with people from all walks of life. Some who didn’t even walk much. And I’ve accepted them in my heart. It all started with a better decision. So the next time I make a move, I’ll think of the better decision and take that one step forward. We will always be on a high horse and look down at other, the purer we are. Lets rid ourselves of purity. It’s non existent. Making a better decision exists and the next good decision will be to post this.



Was I really lied too..?

In my previous post ” I’ve been lied too..” I stated a few things that I feel were said to me that weren’t absolutely accurate. But today morning as I woke up, I saw a comment on my post that said ” Not lies, but hopes and dreams” . That right there struck a chord and you know I wasn’t lied to per se.

To not sound like it was a plot against me to be lied too or something crazy like that, a little rephrasing is in order. We as a society are hard-wired a certain way, be it culture, religion, tradition etc and I don’t blame anyone in particular for the incorrect information that I’ve been told but I am annoyed.

We are told to do things a certain way because it’ll align with life and it will resonate with how the world is ( or their world ), which isn’t the best place in the planet now ( they’re saying mars is looking brighter now, especially after the discovery of water. I assume we’ll be able to have water fasting retreats in mars real soon ). So, what I do have a bit of an issue with is the updates of mindsets over the years. Times are changing and we HAVE to be changing with it, or else we will  progress as fast.

For those who still think you need to go to university or study a certain field because it’s the trend now, or those think that we either marry from a certain tribe/family members or else we’re bad people or those who think doing things a certain way that they or they’re ancestors did ( like the paleo diet, what is up with that backward diet mentality? )  please re-think you’re options and acknowledge that there are now better alternatives that are more practical, more aligned with the world today and will get us further in life.

And let me make clear that I’m not talking about values that we have to drop to be aligned with the world. The one thing that’s going down hill from here year after year and decade after decade are ethics, values and morals. So that maybe the only one thing that we should stick too and that I believe will always make us shine in any era. Respect is the same as it was in the1920’s, that hasn’t changed . It’s just the way of doing things that have, and that there are better ways of doing them.

We are all told these things in the hope that we’ll be better people and that we’ll shine as our ancestors once did. But the world is moving faster than ever and we  either adapt or perish.

The one thing I’m not taking back is main steam media. Yes, they have a hidden agenda and yes its a very old plot that has been there for ages to get us all thinking a certain way that’ll benefit the rich and powerful while keeping masses just informed enough to go through life as a machine. Beware of the media and what it portrays. Do not buy what they tell us we need, I just need the new iPhone because I have to stay updated and provide you guys with better content faster, right? 🙂

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