Do Ramadan for you FIRST

If you’re reading this, it means that you’re alive and well.

Which means that you have the opportunity to do a little good in the world and to do the most good in the world, you need to do what’s best for you first. Take care of you.

Ramadan is all about you. Mainly. Not completely.

Let me illustrate.

This is basically a month of sacrifice where you do what you do for the greater good.

For God, for the less fortunate ( refraining from eating or drinking till sunset to experience what others go through all day, everyday ) and for us.

But if we don’t have the will, the energy, the drive, the belief and the motivation. We will not do any of that.

The will to do good comes when you’re feeling at least a little good about yourself, without energy nothing in this world happens. The drive, the incentive, the motivation must come with a reward. And the reward is huge. Not just in the afterlife but in this bitter sweet ideal of what we call a life too.

Just google the benefit of fasting. Just google how the more you give you get, the more you receive, just google how meditation and prayer is powerful. The answers are all out there.

Do this for you first. The rest will follow.

Happy fasting.

 

 

 

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When was the last time you sat down?

When was the last time you sat down? Sat down and relaxed ? I bet that was a long long long time ago. I’m sure you’re always sitting down. But are you really?  

Are you “just” sitting down? Ha? Answer me!!

That’s ok, you probably aren’t. 

You and I both know that at this point of your life it’s very difficult for you and I to stay still, focused and just sit down. 

What we think is “‘productivity “ and “ multitasking “ is actually hindering our abilities to get sh** done .

Can you sit still for 10-15 minutes without doing absolutely nothing? 

Can you use the potty without distractions ?

Can you read for 10-15 minutes without reaching to your phone and looking at unimportant bullsh**?

Can you be on your phone for 10-15 minutes without switching apps?

Can you have an uninterrupted meal?

If yes, then I applaud you.

If no, then I ask of you to start sitting still and getting things done. Do your brain a favor.

The fact is that this kind of distracting multi-tasking not only gives you fuzzy thinking, poor creative production, sensory overload, neurotransmitter depletion and chronic stress, but it’s also downright dangerous.

You simply won’t thrive and survive if you’re always distracted by what you’re going to eat for dinner, how you’re going to respond to an e-mail or when you’re going to schedule a meeting. So focus on one task at a time, and be mentally and physically present, especially when it matters most – such as during a workout or when you’re devoting time to your family or children.

Plan wisely for the future, but live in the present with a clear head.

Good luck, it’s really tough. This is something I work on everyday. 

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See how my friend Zain is presently sitting with absolutely nothing in hand. Just a smile. Strive for that

When should we show off

Showing off and ass kissing have become synonyms. But there’s a time and place for them though.

But there’s also a time and place for being authentically us. Or else who are you?

And in the true words of Jackie Chan, “ Who am I ? “

The reason to show off a certain skill, character trait or cockiness is necessary at times because it involves either your livelihood, ego and/or may involve a few brownie points. We’ve all done it and will continue to do it if we want to better our positions in life.

Now. When we overdo that, it becomes very very messy. Same goes when you don’t do it at all. There are times where you shouldn’t show off at all though.

Like, when doing a nice thing. A good thing. Something you’re doing out of kindness. There’s no need to announce it.

Like visiting a sick friend or family member at the hospital. No need to tell it out loud to the whole family EVEN when it’s going to win you brownie points.

It’s just my opinion. And it’s 3:15 am.

My opinion should be taken with a grain of salt from hours 12-4 AM

Movies I hated but now love 4/4

This movie I remember very clearly watching it in the movies when it first came out.

The cast was just too big for me to miss. I remember it was an afternoon. The movie had basically only 4 people in it. I was still in university. I must have been 19-21 at the time.

The movie was awful. I didn’t enjoy it. It made no sense. It did have a few funny parts but the ending basically just killed the whole movie for me.

I left it feeling unsatisfied.

I watched a while ago, and oh my God did I love it. It was funny, satisfying and not long enough.

It’s funny how life teaches you certain elements you’ll never understand unless you go through them.

Life isn’t a one directional road. Life has ups, downs, lefts and rights. And usually doesn’t have an ending that makes sense. How many people do you that have passed away that made sense. Life, man. Life.

Who better to portray that in a movie than the Coen brothers. This movie is an adult movie for sure, and isn’t everyone’s cup of tea. 8 years later I find myself enjoying something I loathed.

Movies I hated but now love 3/4

I still remember seeing it the first time. It was… odd.

It didn’t make any sense to me. It stuck with me though. Like a bad memory that slowly fades, you’re just left with the memory. No details.

So recently Netflix put it on their list.

I watched it. I had to. Turned out, it was one of Carrey’s best work.

I just loved it. I mean ” Wow ”

What a story. Who comes up with this stuff?

Oh right, the French man does

Michael Gondry.

You mad man.

In short, it’s about memories, experiences and what if’s, how’s and whose.

It’s a trip.

If you’re watching it, enjoy the trip. If you already have, pay it another visit.

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Movies I hated but now love 2/4

I was never such a big fan of Star Wars.

Sure I enjoyed watching episode I when it came out and 2 and 3. But it wasn’t anything I was crazy about. Years later at the current job I have.

I meet Ayman

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Now this guy considers Star Wars some sort of religion, which I found odd.

He sat me down and explained the way he viewed the movie. It blew my mind, then I wrote a post titled:

6 Reason you should watch Star Wars

Click on it and find out WHY

I just since then grew to love the heck out of Star Wars.

I watched episode 4,5 and 6 just last year.

Still haven’t watched 8 though.

 

Movies I hated but now love 1/4

This is the first post out of 4. Here goes

I watched these movies a long time ago, but for the life of me I don’t know why I didn’t like them.

Maybe immaturity, lack of depth in life ( not that I’m super deep about life, but deeper now I suppose ) and not too appreciative of cinematography and story telling.

Let me start with Punch drunk love: We know what we know and only know what we see.

Punch drunk love is a very typical love story. But that’s where typical ends. The way it’s told on the other hand is so Paul Thomas Anderson. Very fresh, unique, weird and a whole different perspective on a love story.

Also if you wanna see Adam Sandler completely out of his element

Punch drunk love may just be for you. May

The one tv show I’m watching now

For me to juggle a tv show at this stage of my life is….

Well, let’s just say that it just better be really really darn captivating 

Sometimes an escape is nice, we all need to escape the “ harsh “ realities of our lives.

 But I don’t like escape. Not when it involves me getting out of touch of my own reality and then returning to it the same way I left it. 

To some it can be refreshing. Gives you the space, time and clarity to return to a daunting task or life with a pair of fresh eyes and self. 

To others it takes them away from their reality for a glimpse, just to have them return worse than they were because they deviated away from their reality and now they’ve been dug deeper because instead of working on getting out, they were elsewhere. The return to the hole now seems a little foreign. And the act of digging seems a little foreign too,  and peculiar. I fall under this category 

If I were to escape, it’s only because I want to come back stronger, clearer and hungrier. 

The best escapes for me are those that make me a better person as a whole. 

Exercise, writing, creating , eating of course and resting. But anything done mindlessly really makes me feel worse about myself, my state and not a very good human being.

I always try and choose wisely. I fail a lot of the times but the will is ALWAYS there. That’s what matters. Is my trying and trying until I make it. Which is till death 💀 

One of my current escapes is the tv show “Billions”

I eagerly wait the next episode for 7 days after each episode and boy am I glad that the whole season isn’t released at once. I sure do love the suspense, the cliff hangers and appreciate that this may one day be gone given our binge generation. 

I’ve been watching it since season 1 and every year ( so far seasons 3 ) it just keeps getting better, smarter, faster and deeper.  After I’m done with an episode I feel sharper, inspired and ready to do what it takes. 

In short, here’s what it’s about 

Wealth, influence and corruption collide in this drama set in New York. Shrewd U.S. Attorney Chuck Rhoades is embroiled in a high-stakes game of predator vs. prey with Bobby Axelrod, an ambitious hedge-fund king. To date, Rhoades has never lost an insider trading case — he’s 81-0 — but when criminal evidence turns up against Axelrod, he proceeds cautiously in building the case against Axelrod, who employs Rhoades’ wife, psychiatrist Wendy, as a performance coach for his company. Wendy, who has been in her position longer than Chuck has been in his, refuses to give up her career for her husband’s legal crusade against Axelrod. Both men use their intelligence, power and influence to outmaneuver the other in this battle over billions.

Just a summary 👆🏻

But so much drama, passion, greed, ego, smart dialogue, great performances and beautiful cinematography.

A must see. An escape to a possibly better you. 

Over and out 

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The Kevin hart book review + what I learnt

As soon as I saw that book on the shelf I grabbed it.

I didn’t think twice. I’m not a Kevin Hart fan by the way.

I don’t necessarily hate or dislike him but he’s a big time comedian.

More importantly a stand up comedian. That was my only sell and I bought it.

To be a stand up comedian, you really got to know how to tell a story. You really need to know how to move an audience, you really got to know how to say it well, clear and concise.

That’s something I wanted to know how is done.

Apart from the book being hilarious from the get go. Kevin is brutally honest and really explains his journey from humble beginnings and teaches you a lot of important life lessons along the way.

If you’re someone who likes comedy, enjoys a good memoir and a great underdog story. Then pick this book up

Now here’s what I learnt, I’ll write it in my points:

  1. Turn tragedy into comedy : Kevin is a grand success because turned his negatives and hardships into comedy. Boom. Everyone could relate and he didn’t have to hide anymore.
  2. We choose our chapters and it determines our next one too:  Comedy or tragedy, fairy tale or horror story, rags to riches or riches to rags.
  3. Don’t ever be bullied: unless it involves your pride. 
  4. Having a structured schedule: This will serve me the most, just look at where he and the most successful people in the world are.
  5. Have kids always busy : This will serve our kids in the future a lot. I wish I didn’t spend my summer holidays sitting around doing…. oh wait, I was studying for re-exams. Never mind
  6. Don’t wait for certainty : If you wait for certainty, you will spend your whole life standing still. And if you stay discouraged and give up when things get rough, you will miss on your best possible destiny. So the secret is to be excited about what is in your power to control, be excepting of what’s not in your power to control, and then move certainty into an uncertain future. You don’t have to know. You don’t have to understand. You just have to trust. There is a flow to life, and all you have to do is make the decision to follow that current even if it seems to be carrying your way from everyone around

God, typing all of this down made me wanna go for a second read.

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It’s hard

I just need to write something.

Just have to get my fingers typing or else all fails.

No excuses. I just have to get it done or else……….

I don’t even know if this will benefit anyone. I may not even post it. Will see

When you commit to something, please do not make excuses.

It’s hard. It’s hard I get it.

But what kind of life quality do we want in the end?